I did not start this blog to be some super spiritual southerner with my guns blazing and Bible ready to beat down the heathen! I do however believe in Jesus and live my life as a follower. My walk may not look like your “typical Christian”, but hey, IT’S MINE… I am not trying to shove my belief down your throat, but as a by-product of my lifestyle I will be mentioning it from time to time.
One thing that I admittedly struggle with is being independent. I will go without and cause myself more harm before I ask for help. I want to do it all by myself. I somehow have associated asking for help with failing. I am wrong. I am working on it. I know I can not do everything on my own. One thing I would like to stop is the mentality of ASKING FOR HELP MEANS YOU’RE WEAK. As an aging young adult, I sat down and wrote a blurb about what I would have liked to have been told (doesn’t mean I would have listened).
We are learning to be independent and do things on our own. We are growing into fully functioning adults who make our own doctor’s appointments and everything. I find that as a blooming young adult, we take our need for independence to a spiritual level. We try and do everything on our own that it just bleeds into our walk with the Lord. This is okay. This is how we grow and learn that we cannot make it on our own. Not saying we all should be coddled, but we need to be taught that it is okay to ask for help. It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not be okay. We need to be told these things so that we can rest assured that we aren’t failing at this whole “life” thing.
“the years 18-25 are when we learn the most in life. we discover a lot about ourselves and who we want to be.” – CG
If I could go back and talk to 18 year old me the coversation would go as follows:
“Brooke, a lot of things are going to change for you. Friends will come, and they will go. You do not know it all right now. Maybe your parents ARE actually as cool as everyone thinks they are. I know you’re going to be upset about not going to cosmetology school right now, but trust me… it’s worth the wait. Your journey will take you to places you never imagined. Don’t worry as much. You’ll end up meeting some of the best people in life. You’re going to lose some of the most precious souls in your family, but you’ll make it through. You don’t always have to be the strong one. You’ll go through a bout of depression and push everyone away due to a few circumstances, but fear not… you’ll beat it and find your way again. GOD IS GOOD. You’ll only doubt Him a few times, but you’ll see. HE WORKS ALL THINGS TOGETHER FOR YOUR GOOD.”
Needless to say, there is no solid advice for growing up. There are no across the board answers. Life is one of those things that you just have to let play out. Maybe you’ll make the right decision, maybe you won’t. I say “trust your gut”. Whatever you have peace about will tell you what’s right. Ultimately, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to get it wrong here and there, the important thing is that you learn and keep going. You can’t help those who don’t want to help themselves. You can’t get the help you never ask for. Those are my sentences of encouragement and honesty. Good Luck.
SOB: this song is so raw and just beautiful.